Infertility has impacted my life dramatically. It is not easy getting pregnant, or staying pregnant. It has cost us financially and emotionally. What I want you to know is that it is not always a straight line to conceiving.

My husband and I got married in 2015. We decided we wanted to get pregnant as soon as possible and so I went off birth control. I was getting a little worried when it didn’t happen right away, but then in August of 2015 I had a positive pregnancy test. Before I could make it to my first appointment I started bleeding and miscarried. We thought we would get pregnant again right away. The OBGYN even mentioned “at least you know you can get pregnant”. Then a year goes by and nothing. I saw my OBGYN with concerns and she referred me to a Reproductive Endocrinologist. They ran tests on my husband and I and nothing seemed very abnormal with either of us. This is what they call “unexplained infertility.” It’s hard because there is no explanation and it’s very frustrating because you don’t know what you need to fix.

I tried every stupid old-wives tale I could. I ate pineapple core and even took mucus pills, nothing worked. We tried 4 IUI’s over the span of the next two years and still, nothing. We decided at the end of 2018 we had it and we needed to just go through with IVF. Our insurance doesn’t cover anything related to infertility. We decided to just fund it through personal loans and credit cards. I had my egg retrieval in January of 2019 and my first frozen embryo transfer in March of 2019. It TOOK! We got pregnant and stayed pregnant! In November of 2019 our baby boy was born!

After my postpartum appointment my OBGYN asked me about birth control, I laughed and said, no thanks! We did IVF to conceive our baby so I don’t think I’ll be needing that. Well, in December of 2020 I decided to pee on an expired stick because something felt off. WOW, it was positive! How could this be? We weren’t even trying? I felt a little guilty because I got pregnant without trying. I was so scared, I didn’t want two under two?! How could I handle that? Then we got excited and started planning.

Two weeks later, again before my first appointment I started experiencing extreme pain around my left ovary. I knew something was wrong. I went to the ER and they couldn’t find anything in the uterus, they told me to schedule an ultrasound with my OB to make sure. Nothing in the uterus on the ultrasound there, either. But something was appearing near my left ovary. My OB told me it was an ectopic pregnancy and I needed to take a shot to dissolve the tissue. After all this time, I get pregnant and it’s growing in the wrong place. There are no explanations for the ectopic pregnancy or our infertility, so we are scheduling our second frozen embryo transfer for this summer.

Ashley R.