At age 27, Maire began her infertility journey after being married for two years and trying to conceive naturally. She always knew in the back of her mind that she would need help getting pregnant since she never had natural cycles. After further testing, it was determined that she had Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). After several failed rounds of Clomid and IUIs, the next step was IVF. Those three scary letters: I.V.F (In-Vitro Fertilization).
Turns out it wasn’t so scary, and on the very first try at IVF, Maire conceived her miracle baby # 1.
Samuel David was born at 40 weeks and 2 days on November 14, 2014.
After being blessed with one perfect baby and going through the process of IVF, Maire thought the second time would be easier since she had already been through one round successfully.
Maire started trying to conceive a second baby in November of 2015. She still had some left-over frozen embryos from the first time she did IVF when she got pregnant with her son. She was sure one of those frozen embryos from the same cycle would implant.
Throughout the next year and a half, Maire underwent three more egg retrievals, over eight embryo transfers and three miscarriages. She couldn’t understand why the first time IVF had worked on the first try and the second time it did not. She often thought, “Am I being greedy?” and “Maybe I am only SUPPOSED to have one baby, and I should be happy with one.”
The truth is that she wouldn’t settle for just ONE. She felt the greatest gift she could give her son was a sibling, and she wanted to do everything she could to have a second child. Persistence, patience, hope and faith all paid off. Finally, in July 2017, Maire transferred her last three frozen embryos from the latest egg retrieval and became pregnant with another miracle baby. Scarlett Mary was born April 7, 2018 at 39 weeks and 6 days.
The hardest part of the whole infertility process can be the isolation and loneliness associated with it. Lonely because you feel like everyone around you is getting pregnant and no one understands what you are going though. YOU are NOT alone! Align yourself with people who understand. Talk to your doctor and see if your fertility office offers a support group. Hearing from other people that have been though it gives you strength and hope. Most importantly, be an advocate for yourself and don’t ever let anyone steal your dreams of being a parent.
To anyone currently in the process of infertility treatments or with a recent diagnosis: never lose hope. It’s not going to be easy, but that prize at the end, that light at the end of the tunnel is certainly worth every tear, every shot, every disappointment, every financial burden, every let-down and every struggle. Trust the process, keep the faith and keep your eye on the prize. This is #InfertilityUncovered.