LaquitaLaquita’s fight with infertility began 7 years ago in 2010 after they endured three years without conceiving, three months of missed cycles, and two negative pregnancy tests. Her and her husband’s search for answers started with a visit to Laquita’s OB-GYN. Here, she was diagnosed with perimenopause, the transitioning stage to menopause. She was only 33 years old at the time. There were no tests performed to find out why Laquita was experiencing this at such a young age. The couple was referred to a local Reproductive Endocrinologist whom they met with the following week.

Once in the office with the specialist, the doctor started to discuss their options. Right away, the doctor started going over the process of IVF. This struck Laquita as odd because there was no in-depth discussion of her medical history. Once the doctor was done discussing IVF with Laquita and her husband, they were moved into another room where they spoke with a financial representative that discussed the cost of the treatment.

The total amount for one IVF cycle would be somewhere around fifteen thousand dollars, due to the fact that she would have to use a donor egg. Laquita’s husband laughed and flat out told her that they did not have that kind of money so it was no need to go any further.

We didn’t talk about it. We silently agreed that we would just move on from this chapter because there was no way we could afford to have one IVF cycle, let alone the multiple it could possibly take.

Seven years later, Laquita is still living without children. But, she has surrounded herself with women who get what she is going through. Every woman has a voice that she should use, according to Laquita. When seeking medical treatment for infertility issues, an individual has the right to ask why, what, who, and how. He or she have the right to question test results and even ask if the tests given are the best to assess your issue.

No one should be made to feel like they have nowhere to turn. Seek second opinions and do your research on your diagnoses so that you are educated when going into appointments.

Laquita writes that it is also best to talk to others that are experiencing the same issues so you can learn from their stories. There may be a test or a successful procedure their doctor performed that someone else didn’t. Refrain from feeling ashamed, Laquita says. Infertility is a disease, not a curse. Take the same position you would take if you had a sick child and the doctors couldn’t find out what was wrong. Though your baby is not in your arms you still must fight and be their voice.

Laquita L., SC