JoyceHeather met her husband, Matt, when she was 19 and he was 26. The couple met through a mutual friend in college. On their very first “official” date, Heather asked Matt if he liked children. He was quite shocked by her forwardness and replied, “Isn’t it a bit soon for that question?” Heather said, “No. I know that someday I want to have children and if you don’t, that’s a deal breaker.” Obviously, he replied that he did like children.

The two waited until she finished graduate school to get married. Then they waited a year and a half after marriage to try to start having children. They bought the perfect house to raise several children in. Heather had just turned 27 at the time and was healthy, so she believed that she had no reason to think that they would have trouble getting pregnant.

I thought only older or unhealthy people struggled to get pregnant. Little did I know, that is not the case.

After six months of trying, Heather went to the doctor, but they told her that within her age range, she had to wait a year before insurance would pay for testing. Six more months went by, and Heather was finally able to make an appointment with the reproductive specialist. She found out that she had low AMH, two possibly blocked Fallopian tubes, and potential endometriosis.

Fast forward to a year later after her diagnosis. She has been diagnosed with stage 3 endometriosis and premature ovarian failure. She has had one failed IUI, laparoscopic surgery, which resulted in the removal of a Fallopian tube, two canceled IUIs due to no response to medications, and two failed IVFs. They are currently in the process of a donor egg cycle. They are cautiously optimistic as they move forward with this process.

We want others to know that infertility does not discriminate and it is a disease that is not something to be ashamed of.

Matt & Heather J., VA