My biggest dream in life is to become a mother, and I’ve been trying for 17 years.
On January 6, 2017, I was diagnosed with proximal tubal blockage on both fallopian tubes, which has made trying to conceive a little harder. In March of 2017, I started my in-vitro fertilization (IVF) journey. Insurance only covers so much when it comes to IVF, and some insurance doesn’t cover anything at all.
I have been through three IVF cycles, two tubal cannulations, and multiple embryo transfers. My last embryo transfer, Dec 14th, was a success.
Now, the moment a woman becomes pregnant, her and her child create a special bond, something only the mother can experience. Because of this, I knew in my heart something was not right. On Jan 5, 2021, I lost my babies at six weeks. The ER was very scary and heartbreaking. They are not aware of IVF patients and treated me as if it didn’t matter, but I’m not giving up. I’m going to try again.
As I prepare myself for another IVF cycle, insurance will only cover so much which leaves me with out-of-pocket costs for medications and procedures. The doctors and nurses have been amazing while being under their care. So far, I have spent over $28,000 since starting the process. I have been open with my infertility and have had the chance to speak on infertility and miscarriage during an open interview. What I want you to know is that you are not alone, and it’s okay to be open and speak out about Infertility.
During my journey, I have helped many women and men open up and speak up on what is considered the “silent topic.” Infertility has changed my life in so many ways, and I have chosen to speak up and be open about my infertility journey. I have helped make a big impact on others from a support group I offer via social media. The truth about trying to conceive is, some may not have success after their first try. Many, like myself, continue to fight every day.
I have seen friends leave; family members turn their backs. That’s when I started to understand that a lot of support comes from strangers.