What I want you to know is…you don’t know if you haven’t lived infertility. You don’t know what it’s like to ask your husband if he wants to continue with your marriage given the issues with infertility. You don’t know what it’s like to have the tearful conversation and being fully prepared to walk away so he can find a woman that can give him children.

You don’t know what it’s like to go through all of the tests, appointments, monitored cycles, medications, injections, and more so you can try to get pregnant.

You don’t know what it’s like to not be able to even admit to yourself you are pregnant, because you know how crushed you will be if you lose this pregnancy; like you did last time.

You don’t know what it’s like to use your last embryo and to have it fail. No second child, no sibling for your daughter, and no possible son for your husband.

What I want you to know is…if you haven’t been through infertility treatments, be gentle with your friends that are or have gone through it. It isn’t easy, even if you do get a baby. The pain and hurt from the experience is never gone. What I want you to know is…I’ll be sad about it forever.

Michelle H.
Connecticut