What you don’t know is that I just celebrated the two-year anniversary of my failed IVF. I live with guilt and anxiety that my son will miss out on having a real childhood because I couldn’t give him a sibling.
What you don’t know is that I have to hold myself together when I walk down the baby aisle at a store. I am so mad at myself that I couldn’t expand my family because I am broken.
What you don’t know is that I try to normalize my IVF experience when people ask me why I don’t have a second child. I admit to them that I tried IVF and it didn’t work – that my body couldn’t provide healthy embryos. It’s uncomfortable, but it has stimulated so many different opportunities to talk about infertility.
I am proud to say my story inspired a woman in her 30s to freeze her eggs. She wanted to have her eggs frozen, but she wasn’t sure about it. I told her the pros and cons and helped her out while she went through the experience. Now she feels in control to follow her career with confidence since she has a backup. No guarantee, but at least she’s closer to the end goal.
Amy W., IL
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